Gosh Doug, 83 days is wonderful, Congratulations.
I am sorry your wife isn't happy, a lot of people can get defensive when make our self improvements, it can hold a mirror up to their own behaviour.
It can threatens them and the denial.. perhaps!
The thing is, quitting drinking isn't just a self improvement it is 'life saving'.
If you like AA and you appear to be making connections and progress, it could be a step backwards to leave.
Have you tried asked her to come along and support you, see how the group works, no strings!... let her know how badly the alcohol was affecting your health.