I think you have to get to the point where you have had enough of what he is doing to your life and the lives of your children. Until then, you will be stalling with your indecision about what to do next. Have you even really considered what damage he is doing to your family? He is a bad seed and growing into something worse everyday he remains influencing your household. Protect your children. They don't need this in their lives and neither do you. When will you finally tell him that YOU HAVE HAD ENOUGH!?