"didn't do the first four years I was sober except for #1. My motivation is getting my wife back."
mester, maybe, just maybe, one of the reason ya ended up drinkin again is because of just doing step one?
ive been to a few meetings and have been greatful to see people returning. 2 things ove heard as a reason for having drank again:
they worked a 1,2,3 step program.
they rested on their laurels and did it their way.
what that sets in stone for me is half measures avail us nothing, no matter what method of recovery is used.
and I truly hope you decide you change your motivation. I can understand wanting your wife back, but please do it for you.