What one expects from a "Bar" may range from inspiring conversations in early bar hours to getting ********* at hardcore drinker places 24/7.
And of course, it's about how you can handle triggers. In doubt, Sobriety protections comes first.
I don't wont to miss out the "salon culture" of some good places, where I like the crowd and conversations. What works for me, is going to only some few targetetd bars early hours during the week, ordering always the same drink (Tonic) and leaving after latest two hours, before it gets busy. The barkeepers there know I don't drink, I tip them generously.
I really focus on the benefits of conversations, the feel of the place, but seperate the alcohol part from it. Actually I visualized that before I started going to bars again. After some "training" I am perfectly fine with it.