Brick,
If you still drinking, any step you take is better than picking up again. Do what it takes to stop. Some use bits and pieces of different ideas. The point is focus on YOUR sobriety. I can hear the pain in your posts. I grew up with an abusive father & a victim mother. I'm older now, and it still hurts, but my drinking only made it worse. Don't focus on the hurt, focus on getting yourself free of the poison. The rest will slowly get better.