IMO, involving someone in your family life in your recovery can lead to some relapse scenarios...I adore my husband but I don't even talk to him about being sober because he still drinks and this is something I have to do on my own. I know if I talked to him about it, especially in the early days, he would have told me I wasn't that bad and I probably would have used that as a relapse excuse.
So keeping your stuff your stuff is probably a healthy instinct at this point? But checking out the meetings a few towns over is a good idea.
I have been sober for over a year in large part because of the support on this board, so it can be done. But it's always worth at least checking out whatever tools might be helpful for you, yes?
You can do this.