Originally Posted by
tomsteve 
call me self righteous, but I think a better solution would be to work the steps on this.
Yes. One thing my first sponsor ALWAYS reminded me is that it is not my place to take anyone else's inventory. "If I am not the problem, there is no solution" . . . . pp 85-88 and 417-418 are ones I read daily and in addition to talking about "acceptance as the key to all my problems" (paraphrase 4th ed), they talk about looking at MYSELF when I am disturbed by something. I find this really helps put my focus where it belongs- on what I can do better, on where I am wrong, etc .. .. not on others, no matter how crappy they act or how "right" I am about my assessment of their behavior.....
And - focusing on the folks who have what I want, not the ones who have what I don't (there are certainly some jerks in the rooms of AA I attend - dry drunks, others whom I just don't like, whatever- just like in life) is the most useful and positive focus I can have.