Hi Wendy Lew and welcome. I hope you find the support you need here. I would suggest talking to a lawyer when your AH is out of town for work. Canada does have common law marriages. Do you have any right to spousal support? And I would look for a job to support yourself and get your daughter looking for a job for herself too. You could both contribute to renting your own place. His anger is escalating from verbal to nudges when will it become pushing shoving slapping punching? Twenty years is a long time and it will be hard but as I have heard here so many times. "It is time to leave when the fear of staying is worse than the fear of leaving." Peace to you WendyLew!