Originally Posted by
irishlad 
i don't go to aa never found it much help to be honest.
I have a close friend that doesn't drink or use. I would consider him a sponsor. I have been chatting to him.
But i think your right i am better off just leaving it and walking away.
I still think his wife should know but i don't think i would even have the heart to tell her.
Your friend isn't a sponsor but simply a friend. It's good to have someone sober to talk about things with though but don't think that is any sort of sponsor/sponsee relationship.
So what has not going to AA gotten you? Sounds to me like you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by hitting up some meetings again but this time have an open mind and be willing to accept the help that is offered. Believe me, NO ONE thinks AA is for them... at least not until they actually follow the program and see the amazing impact it has on their lives and the lives of those around them.