I went through several different outpatient groups, intensive and aftercare, and in my experience not all counselors "got it" in a way that resonated with me, in fact only a few did. They were mostly (all?) former addicts, but that by itself didn't make a lot of difference, particularly since many came from 12-step programs that are completely opposed to my world view. Being a former addict helps with empathy, I'm sure, but there are lots of other factors that ensure that even many former addicts will say things that will leave you speechless and scratching your head.
We've all heard it before, but we're free to take what we can use and leave the rest, from everyone.