Hello Beryelle,
By now your husband has returned home...and I'm sorry for what your night has been.
I understand the resentment. I think we all do. Detachment is sort of a learned skill--it takes practice. Perhaps if and when this happens again, just realize you don't need to be all lovey dovey if you don't feel it. Just don't blast him with both barrels as he comes in the door. Maybe continue your evening doing what you like to do so that his drinking won't disrupt the whole night?
Wishing you strength and clarity!