Hi Wells... if I remember right she was also on antidepressants and wanted to get off them. Not sure if she got off them but that could have been the worst thing for her to do. Causing such a catastrophic slide that you can't even get out of bed. Not making excuses here, but just explaining depression and medication that gets taken for it. I know. I have taken antidepressants for over 20 years and tried "just stopping" a couple of times. Of course the drinking is a bad thing and is causing her more issues on the depression side. Her dog could very well all that keeps her alive. I know mine were for a time. But this post is not to guilt you out, but to encourage you to keep moving on. You will not "save" her (as you know). She is sick and will find her way whatever her way will be. Thanks for sharing. I know it's hard to understand and you miss what you thought you might have had at one time.