Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
i think you've done this before....start to soften towards your abuser. he has perpetrated such violence and insanity towards you and the girls......IMHO he doesn't earn the right to pity.
don't go there. don't feel sorry for him. you all have suffered too much.
Yeah no feeling sorry for him in a caring for him way-- I think it is more, pity that he has wasted his life and that his wasted life means pain for my DD's...
I feel pity for him throwing his life away and anger that his wasted life means pain for my innocent kids...
I guess my pity is more selfish than concern for him-- I think I have sorted that out over the last week-- when I first posted it was more pity for him-- I think the bigger issue is pity over the wasted life and the fall out that that means for others around him...