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Old 12-22-2016, 09:44 AM
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Jmv2003
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Originally Posted by sauerkraut View Post
Hi Jmv2003,
In re-reading your first post, I see that you said finding out that he had another woman would be a deal-breaker for you. Well, if he's an alcoholic, as it seems, he does have another 'partner.' Many of us here have realized as much with our spouses/ex-spouses. I used to kid mine that he was having an affair with "Sky," as in Sky vodka, until I realized it wasn't funny.

You can protect your kids--or at least try very hard to get sobriety monitoring in place for when he has custody--and it sounds like he's going to be reasonable in terms of finances, too. Go for initial legal consultations, which are often free, and get as much advice as you can about your best options to move forward.

As to your question about why he's pushing the 'divorce' button now, I don't know, but it sounds like he's being mean. He feels like you're attacking him by pointing out issues with his behavior, so he's turning around and attacking you, right in the heart.
Thank you so much! Everything you said makes so much sense!!
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