Hi activelearner - welcome
you've posted in our chat admin forum
I'm going to move you to our Family and Friends forum for more response
I think it's nice your son is trying to reestablish a relationship...but as the alcoholic in my story, I also know that people have their own timetables when it comes to forgiveness and trust.
You can't force reconcilliation.
It took several years for some people to accept I'd genuinely changed...and some never did accept it. There's not much I can do about that.
Maybe the best thing to do is give your husband space and let him work out things in his own mind?
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