There's two things to address when we deal with our alcoholism. First is the Alcoholic DRINKING. Then we need to deal with our Alcoholic THINKING. If we don't do both, through working a plan of recovery, then sobriety is unlikely to be comfortable or sustainable. Certainly, in the early period of sobriety we all experience some anxiety and don't feel ourselves, but we can get through that initial period of adjustment and learn to make our lives manageable and enjoyable.
Have you considered that sex might just be another way of acting out? Of looking for relief from internal pain but looking to external reward. Ineffective, but it's what we do best - we mistakenly think that those highs and the temporary comfort we get from alcohol, drugs, sex, gambling, overeating, etc. are the answer, and a way of dealing with our problems, when all we're really doing is compounding them.
Once the drinking has stopped we're left with an important and ongoing task of learning to deal with life on life's terms.
Have you seen Dee's thread about making a plan? It's a good'n.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...y-plans-1.html