Kw0920.....I am sooo glad that you are going to individual counseling! May I suggest that you might use the help of the counselor to help you find a plan of dealing with the mother-in-law situation...I know it has a lot of very practical concerns for you.....
Honestly, If it were me, I think I would start helping him to pack....
With his constant verbal abuse...it is hard to see how you have stood it this long!!! You are being emotionally abused on a daily basis....
You will get over your "false" guilt---with the help of your counselor and a support group like alanon or an abuse support group....
May I ask...how old are your twins?