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flame11 Thanks Tatsy, I'm pleased to hear that you had a similar tactic to me that worked for you too, during the first few months of becoming a non drinker.
As has been said, AVRT is a 'simple' and effective technique for targeting the AV and it's origin the Beast. I can see its simplicity and its laser beam effectiveness. Although I feel that at times I am still wrestling with IT more than i should be which is not what AVRT is about. Is this normal for begginers? I love what Mesaman said about the sumo wrestling match, that's why I choose to say wrestling! It makes alot of sense to me.
To continually RECOGNISE and SEPERATE myself from IT'S desire to consume alcohol. To continually recognise ANY self doubt or fear as IT and separate myself from IT.
The wrestling match refered to lasted only two seconds and there was essentially NO body contact. I think that was the point of using that example. He didn't even have to wrestle.
When I first learned AVRT, I found that I often swore at IT when I recognized the AV, and I hardly ever swear. It worked great. Silence and total separation. I learned later that swearwords actually go way deeper into the brain than other words, right down close to where the Beast resides.
Another thought that always kept me on top of the 100 percent confidence was KNOWING WHY I made the Big Plan. I did it for myself first, but also for the members of the future family I wanted to be the father and husband of. I did NOT need booze for escape, sex, coping, relief, any of THOSE normal life experiences. I KNEW that any ideas along that line were not just counterproductive, they were bald faced LIES.
The Big Plan doesn't really need any particular thoughts to succeed, IF you've really made it. I believe you have made it because I know, absolutely, that you are very, very capable of making it. Because you are capable of loving yourself, and the people in your life that deserve your love also love you back, make all the best reasons for making The Big Plan and even of telling them you have done it. Your children and your therapist in order to allow your relations to blossom even more. Your mother and your boyfriend in order to alert them to the fact that your relations with them are going to change. And you know you will never have the best possible relationship with a partner without a Big Plan. What do these types of thoughts do to your confidence level?