I don't think opinions from your ex can be anything but biased and self-serving.
Of course he doesn't want you to date--it's a blow to his ego if nothing else.
The saying is "don't go to the hardware store for bread".
Paying attention to what he says on affairs of the heart is just that.
However, it is valid for you to be thoughtful and in no hurry to get in another relationship.
This is better worked out with therapist and internally--in short, don't talk
about it with him again, and don't allow him to bring up the subject.
Wishing you all the best and, when the time comes, a happy and fulfilling relationship. Don't just
settle--choose wisely
