Hugs and good thoughts to you, jjnorris. It's always a sad thing when those we love don't choose us. Someone posted this on this site not too long ago, and it has been coming back to me a lot lately: addicts put people into 2 categories: those who help them to drink/drug or, at least, don't get in the way. And those who do get in the way, i. e., the loved ones who want them to straighten out and do the right thing. Right now, to your husband, you are in the second category. I am sorry for that, and I hope that won't always be the case. You must do what you must. I wish you peace and love.