Originally Posted by
Lilro 
^^^^ This ^^^^^
So the question is.....
Is this the way you want to continue to live?
This.
Your question was "are relationships on an even keel?"
Some are, and can continue to maintain the ebb and flow of a healthy relationship; IMO and IME (current experience), it's not about 50/50 and who does what and keeping things "equal" (or worse, the little bits of giving to keep the other's tank just full enough not to leave) - the even keel is the balance of meeting each other's needs as well as your own. I can only do this successfully with communication and truly paying attention to (Then acting on) what my boyfriend needs. We have a pretty exceptional relationship and now- after plenty that weren't even close, and one that was abusive- I won't settle for less.
You have to decide what kind of "keel" you want to have in your life.
Good luck.