jj...hugs dear. So many of us know exactly how you feel. There are no two ways about it, addiction sucks. He wouldn't need to lie if what he said were the truth. I don't know what hurts worse -- the lying or the hope we hold on to. I was married 22 years. I held to my boundary that if he was drunk, don't come home. So, in classic fashion, he drank and didn't come home. It hurt. A lot.
Keep moving forward. Focus on YOUR recovery through Alanon. Keep reading and posting...you will gain strength! big big tight hugs friend.