And just to be clear--I'm not for a second suggesting you WAIT to leave until you get the house squared away. I'm saying AFTER you move out and get settled a bit, please see a lawyer and revisit the house situation. If only your name is on the deed/mortgage, get him out of there. If both of your names are on the deed/mortgage, talk to a lawyer about partition. One joint tenant cannot hold the other "hostage" by refusing to sell the property. You are just racking up future loss and risk if you let him stay there, IMO. Get legal advice; maybe talk to a realtor. I just have a strong feeling that you won't want to be dragging out this relationship with property in common. It will keep hanging over your head, and I have a feeling you will feel much more free if you don't have the remaining entanglement.