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Old 12-06-2016, 06:17 AM
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Hawkeye13
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I grew up in an alcoholic home with the fear, emotional upheaval, drunken driving, and the perpetual upset dealing with an active alcoholic brings.

This did serious emotional damage to me, and also gave me the wonderful role model
of "drinking to get away from problems and pain" which I embraced and became
an alcoholic in my turn as an adult. Lots of kids who grow up with alcoholic parents inherit this, unfortunately.
Whether nature or nurture, or a combination of both, it doesn't make for a safe, happy childhood no matter what.

The damage to the kids is in the exposure, not you getting them into a safe, peaceful home.

Do what you need to do to protect them--all his promises have added up to nothing so far--
why believe anything he says about recovery until he shows you he can do it on his own for at least a couple of years?

You have given and given and given. Do what's best for you and your kids now
and don't feel guilty about anything. I'm sorry you are dealing with this
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