I know she's a lovely lady and you do adore her--but it seems for your own sake you ought to just hold your own counsel.
At least till she sees you functioning independently.
There are a million topics to discuss with a nice person other than your personal business.
Seems like you guys are stuck in a rut--and for your own growth and self-preservation you need to withhold things that she's got a track record of misunderstanding.
Can you take a hot bath tonight? Are you a bath person? You need to clear the jumble in your mind.