Flame, I'd don't know how I missed this yesterday! You've made your BP! That's amazing, you're awesome and I'm so thrilled for you.
I'm a mother too and Soberlicious ' comparison between ODAAT and the BP and the comparative effectiveness in controlling a disruptive, demanding AV/toddler, is so true. A BP and practising AVRT is so powerful, such a line drawn in the sand. Whereas ODAAT is weak and involves fighting, resisting, reasoning.......the Beast loves, it, relishes it, 'never say never says IT, give me one of those delicious relapses which I enjoy....you can start again tomorrow, ODAAT.'
I'm so glad I discovered self-recovery, it's such a relief and liberation from addiction.