Missy ,I could have written this. I am in the exact same position. My husband will also do the same things. I quit 12 days ago. I started to go to AA for some support. It's the only support I get and it helps. I have tried to quit many times. I don't know how I can stay with him any longer if I keep relapsing. I'm the bigger drunk but it's very hard to live with a drinker. Even one that you love dearly.