Young Lady oh my you have so much of life ahead of you.. without him... kick him to the curb.. ditch the dead horse.. run kiddo run.. find out what life really has for you.. you just turned 21 and you two have been together for 4 years.. sweetheart you have so much of live to LIVE LIVE LIVE... without him.. go to school get a career travel see the world eat in Paris France wiggle your toes in a pond in England... run run run. and don't look back.. for if you stay in this place with him at the helm .. you will never see any of the life you could have had and been so rich in the career of life you would have had on that other path... look in the mirror. what do you see.. tell the Man in the Mirror what you really want in life and do it DO IT. go go go.... please... and old lady clown... prayers and love