Miss P you just do whatever you need to do. Its too much for my brain to process....but then, most things are right now! I have had so much drama and bs in my life that if anything even has a whiff of drama or chaos...I'm out, gone, see ya. I can't even imagine or fantasize about a relationship or sex or whatever. My brain simply won't go there. Truly a first.
One thing I know is when I take pause, get quiet and really listen to my inner voice (call her my Wise Woman) I generally find the answer. If it isn't forthcoming, I continue to take pause. Well, that's what I've been doing and I hope to keep doing. Good luck.