Sorry to hear that the rehab experience was so horrible lesuisse. Some parts of the world have different ways of doing things than others and it's unfortunate that you had to go through all that.
On the flip side of things you are now sober and it's also entirely possible that your wife had no idea what might have happened, she could certainly have been only interested in helping you get better. I hope you can have an open and honest conversation with her about your goals now that you are sober and not hold resentments against her for things that were most likely well beyond her control.