Yeah, strikes me as rather controlling in a lot of ways. Some people might be just fine with a guy who makes all the decisions "for everyone's benefit." It wouldn't be MY cup of tea, for sure. I'd rather struggle along on my own at this point in my life.
I'm not suggesting he's malicious, but he does seem to sort of patronize you. He probably thinks you don't appreciate his wisdom and foresight. Whatever.
Great sex is fine, but that's only a small part of day-to-day life. I don't think it makes up for other areas where you are less compatible.
Look, there are a lot of people out there who are basically good guys but still don't really allow you to flourish as you could or should. I think you have some pretty valid concerns.