Originally Posted by
Refiner 
My dash of non-sex/best friend vanilla is JUST right for me. Sometimes we have to give up the soap opera love stories and drama to really enjoy life as it is supposed to be. Being intimate in non-sexual ways really works for us.
Well, I'm ok with no flowers or cards or romantic poetry, lol, but I'm not giving up sex unless I'm physically incapable of doing it!
The good news is: we have a sex life that works for both of us in terms of frequency, desire, compatibility, etc. I have no complaints in that area. I went 3 years at the end of my marriage without sex and the 5 years before that were completely dysfunctional. And, I truly believe it's the best way we find connection for us because he's way more in tune with me than my ex or others before have been.