Thanks for the update, Jada. I'm in a similar boat, separated for a year, in the process of finalizing our divorce agreement, and thriving on the newfound peace my children and I are experiencing.
BTW despite all evidence to the contrary, my husband seems to have convinced himself that he doesn't have a problem with alcohol, also. Thus I think maybe us giving up on them is a step on their road to recovery, too. At some point they will wake up and realize they are sick and we're not there to blame anymore. Or not; how freeing it is to leave them to their own journey rather than continuing to ride the rollercoaster. Thanks for the update.