Just seeing this T, and hope you are doing alright. I think it is possible to have boundaries and also keep a phone going. When my RAD was homeless and in active addiction, this was a way I kept my sanity--even if she called asking for something I couldn't or wouldn't give, we had a line of communication. Even if it took her a day or two to text me back, it helped me manage my anxiety somehow. I was glad to see that he is messaging you on FB, so perhaps that is enough. My daughter was on the road all over the place, so the phone helped me cope with that. Just another take on the issue.
I have you in my heart and prayers tonight. Doing nothing is really hard work. Hang in there.
