I guess it's sort of playing with fire, isn't it?
How similar is this question to you compared to "can I control / moderate my drinking?"
Are you still testing your limitations, or do you know where you draw the line?
So much of the problem for addicts is how they feel psychologically after they find out they've had alcohol. "I've had a little, I might as well have a tonne" slippery slope logic.
I'm not sure, but I think maybe there's a difference between someone who still feels addicted, and someone who has made a lifestyle choice after abusing alcohol. Addiction isn't rational, and sometimes if someone finds out their cough medicine had alcohol in it they go crazy, or even their mouth wash. But if it was a lifestyle choice and quitting wasn't too hard, I guess it's a different situation.
My advice is if you don't feel safe having a drink, I don't think it's a good idea to eat meals like this, especially if you're the one putting the booze in.