Stormi- when I feel overwhelmed my mantra starts with the basics. Safety first- don't drive if drinking, distracted, no sleep- real basic stuff. Then HALTS. Then talking/sharing- AA meeting, sponsor, SR, priest, counsellor- once again KISS, basic. My plan when emotionally overcome is to become more aware of triggers and plan to control them. It sounds as if you need to focus on yourself- not others. Your health and well being is paramount to you. Do you need a check up?
Keep posting.PJ