BC, that's a huge distinction.
Thoughts get "triggered." In early sobriety I sometimes spent three days being upset and spinning about something. In my case I believe I had done enough damage to my central nervous system that I really obsessed over stuff w a a a a y longer than a normal brain does. That kind of situation now doesn't hold power over me - but I was exactly like you described in early days of my own sobriety.
I know that my intentions/motivations are good. I know that when someone else is triggered it's their stuff. I am now able to tell the difference, and I don't worry about other peoples' reactions to stuff.
You're doing great. You know and see that something isn't quite right yet. You dissect it, and you're getting good feedback from your inner voice.