My bf is a normal drinker. He truly is normal because he can have one beer and then not drink for weeks.
My parents are "normal drinkers" who drink vodka every night after 8pm but hardly ever act drunk and always stay well organized in every aspect of their life.
My bf doesn't bother me. I never drank beer and so I don't get jealous. I do get jealous if he orders a martini and he gets that, therefore he doesn't do it.
My family does bother me. Because I love vodka and because I wish I could drink vodka every night and function normally. They drink in front of me because they say I need to learn how to navigate the real world where everyone drinks. I just need to learn to say no.
I think it's possible to be with a normal drinker as long as the love and support is strong. My bf has seen me at my worst stages of alcoholism and understands how imperative it is for me to not drink.