I know men in their 40s who still wonder why they are a magnet for crazy chicks, as they put it. This 24 year old had named the problem and knew how to get away from that.
I think dating and finding the right person is all about being yourself. And for years I would hear that advice and say "But I am myself, who else would I be?" And I hear others say "But I'm too awkward on dates to be myself" and "What if they don't like me that way"... I even went on a first date once with a guy who said "Most people don't like me"... Another guy, the day after our first date said to me "You're the best thing in my life right now." These are red flags.
Honestly, I never realized I wasn't being myself at all.