Can an alcoholic live with a normal drinker?
My wife drinks a little. She didn't much when I first quit, but now that I'm solid in my recovery, she's comfortable have her one drink in the evening, and I am too.
But the question isn't can I live with a drinker. The question is, can you? and right now it seems to be a struggle. Resentment is a recovery killer. What if the next time he comes home lit up, you decide to drink at him.
You said you are talking marriage. I hope you will give it time to for your recovery to mature. You bf deserves a sober partner.