One of my friends broke up with her SO. They had been together 10 years. To look at him, you would think he was the total package: smart, funny, good looking, good job, nice house. It wasn't until you got to know him that you could see he was crazy controlling, way out of touch with his emotions--totally shut down-- AND he smoked a lot of weed, which my friend came to detest. She did not make the decision lightly, but she believed she was better off without him than with him. As you know, people can don a mask that hides them for a while. Eventually, their true self leaks out. Peace.