Yeah u learned that it's best to call ahead and insist they do also. ONCE you live seperately, it's best to back to feeling and acting like an outside guest.
I tried to do nice thoughtful acts, only to arrive when other men seem to "coincidentally " be there.
Then you also need to realize you are being effed with when it comes to not having enough money to feed the dog. IF he has enough money to date, he has enough money to feed his dog. If not, you need to call animal control to save the dog.
Been here, done this. I'm over $1000 into caring for a dog that she needed me to keep for a few weeks til she could pay the deposit to take him. That was 2 years ago.