Wow, thanks for posting this list! I, too, can relate to many of these bullets. I have a few to add ...
- Drinking when you have to interact with my family
- Not making any effort to get to know my family or friends
- Making me feel insecure when I don't get your sense of humor
- Neglecting our dog
- The smell of "alcohol sweat" when you sleep / wake up hungover
- Almost never helping around the house and acting like you deserve a medal when you do one thing
- Me constantly worrying when you're out late and if you'll drink and drive... again.
- You never seemingly wanting to have a real conversation with me... ever
- You zoning out in front of the TV and/or your phone constantly
I feel better already and I really like the idea of keeping a list handy for moments of weakness. Thank you!