I'm struggling with the same thing. The AA thing is hit or miss for me. I found one or two to be helpful, but the prayer style stuff is a bit weird to me being agnostic. The ones that seem to be a good reminder, and make me think more deeply about my situation are the ones with younger members. I have a hard time relating to older people with families, grandchildren etc., being single in my 30's.
I bought a 3 ring divider with some lined paper and dividers. I've started writing out the plan and going through what's working and what is not. I understand everyone is different, but am finding I am drinking less when I do, and taking more and more days off as I figure myself out. I really need to sit down and take a day to write things down more to re-assess the severity of my problem. Right now, that's my main issue.