I think, that, on a forum, like this...we sometimes come to consider "expectations" a dirty word.
This is a forum that deals a l ot with alcoholism and living with alcoholics. since alcoholics are so u nable/wnwilling to be responsible and attend to the demands and obligations of relationships...folks are often told to lower expectations to avoid disappointments.
Of course...we all know that addiction and abuse are two things that turn usual relationship "rules" topsy turvy.
I think all relationships involve expectations....in both directions.
We have written or unspoken contracts in relationships....many more unspoken than written...lol...
I also, think that the unspoken expectations can get us into more trouble, also....