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Old 10-20-2016, 10:07 AM
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Berrybean
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I'd suggest that the one person that you have undisputed responsibility for is yourself. The other ones are a choice. If you choose to keep looking after them at the expense of looking after yourself and your sobriety, chances are that after a while you won't end up looking after anyone very well (esp. if you relapse, but even if you neglect your recovery work).

If you can manage to keep right-sized in this then it will make things much simpler and easier. Carers come. Carers go. Relationships start, and they fizzle out (esp of one person is an active alcoholic and emotionally unavailable ).

Hope things get better soon, whatever you decide to do.

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