Thank you
Yes I do have some good memories of him when we were all younger JK
But I could never really say he struggled with his drinking problem. He only stopped when other people corralled him into stopping, usually when he was ill or in a desperate state.
But as soon as he was on his feet again, he always said that he didn't want to live without it.
It's hard on my sisters husband, because although he had washed his hands of him (everytime he tried to help, his brother would steal from him, or wreck stuff) he still cared about him.
But I suppose everyone has the right to live the way they want to. And although no one wants to end up in a tent, he just wasn't happy when he wasn't drinking.
I didn't think the trade off of the pleasure of drinking v living a life of homelessness and isolation from the family was worth it. I don't know if he thought it was worth it, maybe he just wanted to drink without consequences? Whatever way you look at it, a life without drink, didn't seem worth living to him.