Originally Posted by
LexieCat 
I dunno, if I were to unexpectedly encounter my second husband (whom I haven't laid eyes on in almost 20 years) and he had a drink in his hand, I'd be hit with a sick feeling. It would pass, though.
Lexie your recent experience on the phone/email helped me to normalize my own startle response a number of months ago when I saw my ex for the first time! I had it without him having a drink in his hand but it was still disorienting.