I would like to clarify that in my previous posts, I addressed that he has to want the help for himself first-
Also when I mentioned getting the help he needs quickly, I did not mean he would instantly change. I meant I hope he comes around and realizes what he needs to do, then addresses it sooner rather than later. For his own benefit.
And if he DOES miraculously do this, say, tomorrow...that in no way shape or form means that it's okay to stay with him, or think because he's admitted needing help then it's worth staying and sticking it out. This toxic situation will only heal if the relationship ends. Both parties need focus, contemplativeness, inner peace. The first understanding is that if there was any relationship in this at all, it was terribly one sided. He may truly believe that he did his best, and it's okay to make peace with that and move forward.
I am clearly far too passionate, lol! My rambles shall cease for now
