Hey, lizatola. It sounds like your son is good with doing the things he likes. That's when he is responsible. And not so good with doing things he's not crazy about, like scrubbing the toilet. Wait. That's me! I cannot tell you how often I have forgotten how to unload the dishwasher. You sound like you have a good handle on stuff. You know yourself and you know your son. Now it's just making it all come together with your new family. Gotta agree with Thumper. Put him in charge of stuff that affects him, like his laundry and such. As long as the girls in the family are treated equally and don't end up always getting the domestic goddess chores, it should all work out eventually. Peace.